PDF Guides from the 11th Principle: Consent!
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How should I respond when I see someone behaving in a predatory or threatening manner? – Bystander intervention flier & info-graphic based upon “Not On My Watch; the Bystanders’ Handbook for the Prevention Of Sexual Violence” by Isabella Rotman. Design by Kalyn TinTin
Responding to perceived consent issues – Consent issues are sometimes hard to spot. We second guess ourselves or tell ourselves it’s none of our business. The balance between “too sensitive” and “too permissive” is a hard one, but we recommend airing on the side of “too sensitive,” especially when your gut tells you something is up. The worst that can happen is you interrupt someone getting their groove on. This guide is intended to help you and your campmates spot and respond to problems occurring in your communal space. Design by Cervix
Reporting a Rape or Sexual Assault – The first few hours after an attack can be physically and emotionally exhausting. Many survivors are overwhelmed during this critical period. Filing a report may not be the first thing on your mind, or you may want to do it right away. Design by Cervix
The Language of Support – Using the right words – When it comes to supporting a person after a sexual assault or other kinds of abuse, the first rule of thumb is validating their experience. This may seem obvious, but most invalidating language is accidental. We hope this guide can help you choose the right words when providing compassionate, validating, and non-‐judgmental support. Design by Cervix
Rangers Guide to Running Interference Against Perceived Consent Violations – 11th Principle focuses primarily on prevention through consent education and advocacy, but we know that our community needs a plan in place for violations if and when they occur. These violations are not only sexual: a violation of consent may take many forms, including but not limited to non-‐consensual photography, gifting, peer pressure, and non-‐sexual touch. We know that our Rangers are likely to be the primary response team for these incidents. We’ve created this guide in an effort to supplement training on this topic. Design by Cervix
Support After Non-Consensual Encounters – A Guide for Sanctuary Volunteers – 11th Principle focuses primarily on consent education and advocacy. While these efforts are largely preventative, we know that our community needs a plan in place for violations if and when they occur. These are not only sexual: a violation of consent may take many forms, including but not limited to non-‐consensual photography, gifting, coercion, and non-‐sexual touch. Our Sanctuary team provides invaluable support to burners who need to decompress after a trying or traumatic experience. This guide is intended to provide Sanctuary volunteers with tips for supporting a person after a non-consensual encounter. Design by Cervix
Survivor Rights – Many survivors of violent crimes and sexual assault experience emotional shock. Part of this process is for survivors to take control of their lives again. In order to do this, survivors must be certain that they are receiving the care and information to which they are entitled. Know your rights! Design by Cervix
- Dusty Consent / NoBED, Yes!BED from the Nowhere community – includes multilingual resources!
- Bureau of Erotic Discourse / B.E.D.
Determining if something is a Consent Violation or Accident
- Hollaback Bystander Intervention Training
- #ItsOnUs – Discussion tools & resources
- Not On My Watch: The Bystander’s Handbook For the Prevention of Sexual Violence (link for eBook & to order a hard copy) or Read on Scarleteen
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network): www.rainn.org
- OurVoice (Asheville Rape Crisis): http://www.ourvoicenc.org/
- The Survivor Project (Intersex and Trans Survivors of Domestic and Sexual Abuse): http://www.survivorproject.org/index.html
- 1in6 – helps men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences live healthier, happier lives. They also serve family members, friends, partners, and service providers by providing information and support resources: https://1in6.org/
Y/N/M inventories are a great way to check in with partners, clarify expectations, and start conversations.
- The Consensual Project – Basic form with blank spaces to fill: http://www.theconsensualproject.com/wp-content/themes/pgm/img/posters/e-ynm-list.pdf
- That Other Paper – Kink version with space to discuss allergies, medical information, triggers, aftercare needs, etc: http://thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf
- Scarleteen – Comprehensive relationship and sexual boundaries inventory: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist
Blogs, Zines and Websites, Oh My!
- Hollaback Resources & How To’s
- Yes Means Yes Blog
- Disrupting Dinner Parties
- The Pervocracy
- The Consensual Project
- FuckYeah Sex Education
- The Good Men Project
- Learning Good Consent
- My Body My Limits My Pleasure My Choice
- Signs of a Healthy Relationship